Ashley Does: When You Give A Mom Some Kids…

The following story is based on actual events.

Ashley & Girls

When you give a Mom some kids, her house is going to be dirty.

When her house is dirty, there will come a point that she will want to clean it.

So she will need to get the cleaning supplies from her bathroom.

While in her bathroom, she will notice that she is low on toilet paper.

So she will sit down to make a grocery list.

She will look in the fridge to see what her family needs, and her preschooler will ask for some milk.

She will pour the milk for the preschooler, and while it is warming up in the microwave (she will never understand why the preschooler likes it warm), she will spray the sticky counters.

When the microwave beeps, she will give the milk to the preschooler.

The preschooler will ask for a movie and her blanket on the couch.

So mom will turn on a movie and get her a blanket.

Then, she will sit down to take a peek at her phone…only to realize it’s dead.

She will head to her bedroom to grab a charger.

And while she is there, she will notice that the bed is unmade and there are clothes on the floor.

She will make the bed and put away the clothes, and actually remember the charger!

But when she gets back to the dining room, she will remember that she sprayed the counter tops and they are now sticky again.

So she will put her charger on the dining room table next to her computer – where she had started a chat with customer support before she went to her bathroom for cleaning supplies. She forgot about the chat and customer support has abandoned their conversation.

She will restart the customer support conversation and wait.

When she sits down, her preschooler will spill the milk and she will have to get back up again.

The counters will remain un-wiped. The customer support conversation will be abandoned again. The house will remain messy. And her phone will not get charged.

But, everyone will end up snuggling on the couch, watching that movie under a blanket, and everything will be OK in the end.

Because,

The cleaning and scrubbing can wait till tomorrow
But children grow up as I’ve learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down cobwebs; Dust go to sleep!
I’m rocking my baby and babies don’t keep.
– Ruth Hulburt Hamilton

When You Give A Mom Some Kids (2)

Until next time,
Ashley

 

Ashley Does: Why I Love Being A Girl Mom (Part 1)

When I was growing up, I always knew I wanted to be a mom.

I had it all figured out: I would have three sons and then a daughter.

We would have lots of loud weekends full of sports games, the house would always be full of hungry boys, and I would get to be that mom who was beloved and spoiled by the men in her home.

Then, while I was busy making plans and God was giggling, I found out I was having a baby girl in the winter of 2007.

Well, wasn’t that a monkey wrench in my perfect plan? Continue reading “Ashley Does: Why I Love Being A Girl Mom (Part 1)”

Ashley Does: What Is Beauty, Really?

What is beauty, to you?

I presented this question to my friends and family and got some pretty amazing answers.

Do you know what not a single person mentioned?

Outward appearance.

No one mentioned a dress size or perfect makeup or fashionable clothes.

Beauty, it turns out, is a mindset. It is an attitude. It is a verb. (It is food trucks, according to my friend Kevin.) Continue reading “Ashley Does: What Is Beauty, Really?”

Ashley Does: The Moosey Dilemma – The Child Versus The Tween in My Daughter

A ragged, over-loved, no longer fuzzy stuffed moose named Moosey sits atop my daughter’s pile of clothes to pack for her first overnight trip with school.

He has been her constant companion for over 2 years now. They go everywhere together, he’s under her arm as she falls asleep at night, and she loves him fiercely.

This trip, however, is an uncertain one for Moosey.  Continue reading “Ashley Does: The Moosey Dilemma – The Child Versus The Tween in My Daughter”

Ashley Does: 30 Day Fill Your Cup Challenge

Work. School. Cooking meals. Keeping house. Laundry. Running errands. Providing taxi services for tiny humans.

It’s impossible to tally all the different ways women take care of everyone and everything around them.

It’s important work, what women do. We are the people who keep life running smoothly. We make sure everyone’s where they need to be, when they need to be there, and wearing pants. Usually while we have less than stellar hair. (Let’s be honest here.)

It is so important for women to take the time to care for themselves. If you run all day long, all week long, without taking some time for yourself, you’ll run yourself out!

It’s in our nature to put ourselves last. There are so many important things to get done that self-care gets pushed to the back burner.

Because of this, I am issuing you a challenge that I hope you will accept. Because you are worth it! You are worth taking the time to make sure you #fillyourcup and take care of yourself so you can better tackle all the things you have to accomplish.

The 30 Day Fill Your Cup Challenge

#FILLYOURCUP30Day

The premise is simple: commit to 15 minutes a day in the month of April to do something for yourself. Something that fills you up, recharges you, and makes you a better YOU.

You can use these suggestions or come up with your own. I designed this list to be tasks that are easily completed in 15 minutes a day, but take more time if you can! And while this list is geared toward the calendar month of April (more lengthy tasks are listed on the weekend days) you can rearrange them as you need to.

The point is to commit to yourself and follow through with that commitment. Treat yourself how you would treat anyone else: if you make a promise to a friend, coworker, or family member, you aren’t likely to break it are you? Treat yourself that well. You deserve to be treated that way!

Print out this list and pin it up somewhere in your house that it will remind you to take the time to #fillyourcup every day.  Check back on Mondays throughout April for your weekly reminder of upcoming challenges.

I can’t wait to hear how your participation in the 30 Day Fill Your Cup Challenge changes your life! Be sure to come back and tell us how it went in the comments!

Need daily encouragement for this challenge? Join us in the Pretty Things Lounge on Facebook where we’ll be sharing our #fillyourcup successes!

Ashley Does: My Marriage Comes Before My Kids – And Yours Should, Too

Marriage is a union of two people who have promised to stick together through anything life may throw at them.

It’s sacred. It’s hard work. It’s rewarding. It’s exhausting.

Besides the relationship I have with God, my marriage is the most important relationship in my life.

It’s so important that I place it above all others – including my kids.  Continue reading “Ashley Does: My Marriage Comes Before My Kids – And Yours Should, Too”